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An Ordinary Disaster in 2024

"We get good at what we do."

Learning to ride

“We all need our own philosophy”

The Quake of '89

Acquiring the skills of growth

Love as a place

Inspiration from Fall 2023—and a reader survey!

Let’s kill 'content,' and reclaim "growth", OK?

Salvational or "a series of compulsions"?

I'm Here To Tell The Truth

Staying sane with research notes, citations, end notes, and a real bibliography

Life As A Goat

Fatherhoodlessness?

The Scripts We Carry

The boy is father to the man

It's not about me

We Need Wild Fathers

Fatherhood Series Essay: Nature and Character

Six Men Writing about Fatherhood

I wanted to be a clam

How "love" often leaves out the truth

Inspiration & entertainment from Summer 2023

Highlights from two dozen Brothers and Teachers

How Well Is Your Wheel Rolling?

We'd all do well to "grow a spiritual pair"

The Thing That Refuses To Be Named

What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Learning to Love, Alone

It's Not a Struggle to Find Good Male Role Models

I Can Fly That Plane

The creative act is a form of dreaming

Who Holds You?

The Dream I've Dreamed a Thousand Times

Happy Music Makes Me Angry

Psychic Heartburn

Beauty, inspiration and entertainment from Spring 2023

The Boat Was Called Discovery

Tools for Writers: Moving from Logseq to Obsidian

Waking up Running

"Decide Nothing" is now An Ordinary Disaster

How to eat the question when someone asks "What's next?"—or anything else, for that matter.

Learning how to do good magic in Chile

I'm here to be myself as much as possible—and the absolute truth can only be...nothing.

Dreaming up something new in New Orleans

E20 / Pilates for Men with Sean Vigue

The amateur athlete’s speedball

Let's open it up

"Writing yourself into existence" with Lyle McKeany

Chapter 17 — Learning that I didn't have to do it all myself

Chapter 16 — A vision of hell, and a warning

Peaks of Glass

Chapter 15 — Saved by a climbing gym, two real friends, kitesurfing, and a half-naked haircut.

What I'm Reading — April 2023

Chapter 14 — A desperate move, a mistake, and a wreck that made everything worse.

Think of the 🤍 like button as "I read the whole thing"—or just "I'm happy to be here."

Chapter 13 — Buying a house in front of a diesel bus stop and...making a run for it.

Sex is Better Sober ...and 23 other reasons why Alcohol is Obsolete

Chapter 12 — Early days in the advertising-industrial complex, why nobody wants to pay for writing online, and why most conferences are so terrible.

I never thought I'd be writing the words: "My Morning Routine" — and, Everything Cookies

E19 / Meditation and Intuition with Scott Britton

Fifty definitive memoirs

Chapter 11 — Lycos the wolf spider, and meeting Jane in Boston

What I'm Reading — March 2023

Chapter 10 — North Beach in the 90's, Yesterday Boy, and AOL chat.

Let Monday Be Truth Day

Eighteen essays about addiction, masculinity, creativity, and intuition

Guide Service

Chapter 9 — Following my intuition to Italy, followed by a descent into confusion.

E18 / Unhooked and Connected with Dr. Adi Jaffe

Chapter 8 — A guerrilla mission to scale San Francisco's most iconic landmark

Chapter 7 — Early intuition about wanting to be a writer, my sister, and drugs in the house.

Guided Meditation: Breathing Colorful Attention

E17 / Addiction and Obsession with Charlie Engle

Anxious Masculinity—How Things Fall Apart

What I'm Reading — Feb 2023

Chapter 6 — Climbing in Yosemite, Quest For Fire, and Penthouse magazine

The Keys to Building Real Community

E16 / Sky Racing and Self Expression with Galen Kirkpatrick

How physical fitness supports my creativity and my work as a writer

Chapter 5 — How I Stopped Trusting My Father

E15 / Behind the Mask with Ashanti Branch

Five Years Sober*

What I'm Reading — Jan 2023

Chapter 4 — LSD + Rocky Horror = ?

Chapter 3 — Starting a business at the age of nine to sell D&D books

E14 / Wayfinding with Kim Stanley Robinson

Digging into six months of BROTHERS AND TEACHERS

How I confused "discipline" with getting told what to do, and learned to love self-discipline

Chapter 2 — A Frisco kid growing up in Maine—and, how to sharpen a chainsaw

There is no Planet B